ARE YOU A HOMOPHOBE?
by Hark Herald C. Sarmiento
In this world of ours where we live in a culture of discrimination and prejudices, homosexuals, especially the gays, often become the victims.
“Galit ako sa bakla [I hate gays],” a friend told me once and it totally irked me. I was disappointed because he failed to accept that homosexuality is an example of normal variation in human sexuality, rather than an abnormality of some sort. As human beings, sexuality is part of our system. It is our tendency to be attracted to another person (that may be towards the opposite sex, to the same sex, to either sex, to all gender identities), or not being attracted to anyone in a sexual manner (Wikipedia, 2011).
Many people agree and tag the homosexuals as promiscuous especially when it comes to sex. They are associated with controversies that involve pedophilia, drugs and other indecent practices. While many view them this way, I as an individual would still like to give these people the benefit of the doubt.
World-renown writers like Sir Francis Bacon, painters like Leonardo da Vinci, Michel Foucault in the field of Philosophy, actress and comedian Ellen DeGeneres, actor Tom Hulce who played the role of Mozart in Amadeus, and musicians like Elton John, are just some of the fine examples of extraordinary homosexuals who are important role models for both homo- and heterosexuals, and play a vital function in dispelling harmful myths and stereotypes.
If this is the case, why do these prejudiced people treat homosexuals cruelly presuming knowledge of another person based upon perceived characteristics such as appearance, clothing, tone of voice, and accompaniment by and behavior with other people? Here’s where the problem of homophobia lies.
Just so you know, homophobia is the fear, anxiety, anger, discomfort and aversion that some “presumably” heterosexual people hold for homosexual individuals. However, there is a psychoanalytic theory which posits the idea that homophobia is a result of repressed homosexual urges that the person is either unaware of or denies.
It is no wonder that in a study conducted at the University of Georgia, researchers were able to prove that homophobes are nothing more than closet homosexuals. [Original APA Press Release]
Seemingly, both groups of men who claimed to be homophobic and non-homophobic manifested the same reactions to videos showing heterosexual and lesbian interactions. However, when homosexual interaction was shown, homophobes manifested a stronger display of arousal. Apparently, men who claimed to be straight when it comes to sex preference committed a blunder by saying so. These men who are actually manifesting anger to homosexuals have a resentment to admit that they too are attracted to the same sex attributing this reaction to the dogma that the society attach to the homosexuals; thus, the birth of the homophobes.
Homophobes assert that they are “straight” while they could be heterosexual without being homophobic. More than annoyance, I feel pity toward them. I pity them for they don’t have the courage to voice out their emotion and what they truly feel. They turned to be homophobes in trying to escape and suppress their homosexuality. I pity them for they don’t see homosexuals (like them) as blessed individuals – capable also of making change and contribution to the society.
Accompanying the immense studies being done on the issue, the homosexual community has been clamoring to the secular society to accept homosexuality as a viable and legitimate lifestyle but I’m agnostic about it.
I neither encourage homosexuals nor reject them for having those urges. However I scrutinize their choices, deeds, acts, and behaviors on how to handle those urges. Even the Roman Catholic Church welcomes people attracted to the same sex, but teaches that homosexual relationships and sexual acts are sinful.
Homosexuals can be “themselves” without being indecent and unnatural. Attraction to same sex is a normal variation in human sexuality but cross-dressing isn’t. Homosexuality is natural but homosexual acts are not. If you are a homo, act properly and decently and you’ll gain respect without asking or even begging for it.
Posted on January 29, 2012, in CULTURE, Education and Teaching, Fairness, NEWS, Uncategorized and tagged APA, discrimination, homophobes, homophobia, homosexuality, homosexuals, psychology, sexual harassment, sexuality. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.